(Taken in the year 2013 - 7th Anniversary) |
It's not that big an occasion, but I guess because it has been so long, it's worth remembering and cherishing and maybe doing just that little bit extra. :) So... to begin this post, HAPPY 111th MONTHSARY to my beloved partner in life, Felix Sik Sern Khuan. Hehe... Hmm, I love you : )
I have recently taught a topic for my Year 5 pupils on "Be Thankful" for the things in life. Next week, I will be doing a Thank You Journal for the class and I suppose it's a good idea to have it with him too. Only, since we're apart now (and too often before this anyway), I will start doing our journal on my own first until we can somehow be rightfully together again.
Often, we find and hear many relationship stories. As often, many stories are about breakups, divorces and all kinds of problems that can occur in relationships. People hardly hear about more successful love stories. When they do hear of one, suddenly that couple becomes somehow a "Wow, how did you do it?" "How could you last so long?" "Aren't you sick of each other?"... Or maybe even become a rarity like "They're exceptional." "Difficult to find someone suitable for me like that couple." Etc. Etc. Hahaha, 9 years and 3 months, exactly 111 months together - Was it easy you ask me? Ask us?
I'd rather not answer because everyone's love story is a different story. Yup, we can have similar problems, the differences of how a man's brain and a woman's brain work, or how a man can just forget the whole argument and leave it at that but the woman likes to keep talking about it until there's an outcome or compromise because if she does not, something feels off and hanging... And she'll keep thinking and thinking and thinking... Or how when she asks him to go sleep already because she doesn't want to feel selfish, she actually hopes he'd stay...But a guy takes almost everything you ask literally. They don't feel how a lady feels. It's why opposite attracts right? Right? Hmm... All these conflicts, experiences and communication breakdowns happen, probably in any relationship. So is it easy you ask? You decide yourself.
Hmm, if you choose to commit yourself to a relationship especially when you do know that he or she's the one, then please learn to try. We have, and I think we deserve to take some pride out of it too, despite our young age, that we're really doing okay. Above average. Maybe not, maybe more for some people's views. If you asked me today if I still find myself crazy about him. Haha, my answer would be yes. You see this picture? Yup, he drives really well. In my life, he drives me safely to every destination I should be in.
So here comes a simple 'genesis' of my Thank You Journal for him:
In our first two years of relationship, thank you for showing me the romantic side of you, who was empathetic, responsive and understanding of my faults, needs and insecurities at that time. It was probably the hardest (as most people would think the first 3 months was the indicator to whether the relationship can move on or not) but we managed to pull through and I thank you because no relationship can work with only one party, but two.
2012 - Video Snapshot Him - Johor, Me - NZ |
In our third and fourth year as a 'doublet', thank you for helping me understand my own religious faith better when you seek to know the truth, fired me difficult queries and things I actually didn't know which struck me to think, inquire and search for myself these answers for you. Thank you for sharing a similar faith with me and now, discussing with utmost open-mindedness our different point of views, perspectives and many insights to life in general so that we are ready to accept the differences and also the compromise.
In the subsequent years until today, thank you for staying by me when the separations were/are tough, for helping me make sense of many things by helping me see things more objectively. More so, thank you for the patience you have shown when the Skype connection was just so terrible... Or when our phone conversations got cut off, blurred, robotic, static etc. etc. You still made an effort to try and be there for me because I needed it. Hmm, thank you for choosing me to be your wife : )
So I'm tired actually to type further. Haha, and pretty lazy also. To my other half, wishing us many many more years to come~ And hoping for the best this year end when we enter the Sacrament of Matrimony. With God's grace, may we continue to overcome all the conundrums that come our way. I love you!
And here are some more pics to refresh your memory of our time together... (Not like you forgotten, but well... we are both very forgetful people o... Hahahaha)
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